Mindful Shopper: Learning From Your Trendy Mistakes
by Maya Talisman Frost
Are you a fashion trend watcher? Do you spend a lot of time
flipping through magazines and analyzing the wardrobe choices
of others? Do you buy trendy items only to despise them--and
Trend-watching--and, more precisely, observing our trend-watching--gives
us tremendous opportunities to create awareness of the traits
we hope we have but are not sure we do. In fact, being frustrated,
embarrassed, or depressed that we have succumbed to a trend
is a perfect chance to discover what we value most.
It usually comes down to this: creativity and confidence. If
we find ourselves buying that trendy little bag or those must-have
shoes, that little voice inside us shouts Sell-out!
and we start to feel that perhaps were not all wed
hoped to be. After all, a truly creative person would buy--or
even make--something unique, and a confident person wouldnt
hesitate to go against the current trend and head in a completely
different direction, or choose to buy nothing at all.
And thus begins a soak in the self-loathing tub, followed inevitably
by an abandoned item at the bottom of the closet.
To avoid this, you must pay attention to it.
What trendy items are buried in your closet at this moment?
Why did you buy them? Who were you with when you made the purchase?
How were you feeling about the world in general and yourself
A little mindful shopping will help alleviate the Trendoid syndrome.
And while youre at it, check in with yourself on that
monologue going through your head when you see others sporting
the latest fashion fetish. Youll learn a whole lot about
YOURSELF if you listen carefully and--this is the hard part--non-judgmentally.
If you do melt at that crucial cash register moment, dont
berate yourself. Simply take note of the way you feel now, and
pay attention to how you feel later. Can you see that downward
slide? Ah. Thats better. Things are getting clearer now.
Buying into a trend helps us feel connected when what we really
long for is a sense of confidence. Take a look at how you can
create greater confidence WITHOUT buying that blouse-of-the-moment,
and find ways to tweak the latest trend in a way that makes
you feel more creative.
Fashion can be fun and absolutely harmless, and you can use
your mindful mall meanders to tap into your own sense of who
you are--and what you REALLY need.
Now, thats what I call a perfect shopping day.
About the Author
Maya Talisman Frost is a mind masseuse in Portland, Oregon.
Through her company, Real-World Mindfulness Training, she teaches
fun and powerful eyes-wide-open alternatives to meditation.
To subscribe to her free weekly ezine, the Friday Mind Massage,
please visit http://www.MassageYourMind.com.